Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Close only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades

I had a bad, terrible, awful day yesterday. If you had seen me during the day, you probably would not have even noticed. You probably could have sat on my shoulder all day, and never even realized what a terrible day I had. Some days are funny that way.

I told a friend I would do her a favor.

I missed it.

This is where I justify it. This is where I say that no one was hurt. This is where I explain that I missed it only by a little bit. This is where I say that it was sincerely an accident. (It was). It happened once before. (I am always at my worst around her. She dropped off my son once after a play date and I was upstairs vacuuming and did not hear the door. Andrew appeared in front of me and I had already missed my chance to say ‘thank you’. What are the chances of me vacuuming my upstairs at all, much less when someone happens to be at the door??). This is where I explain that I often do too much. It is a flaw of character that I have fought for years. I would go on here to explain how I called right away and apologized profusely. I did. I left a message that wasn’t returned.

In the end, though, it was still my fault.

I saw her today. She stood ten feet away as I lingered with a mutual friend. I was holding George and had Gladys at my feet, but I called her name. I apologized, in a clear voice, across that ten feet of space.

She said that she wouldn’t let it happen again. She wasn’t going to go for a third time. She held up two fingers and walked away.

I was wrong. Someone did get hurt.

I am truly sorry.


Indy said...

Yikes. So sorry this happened. I know you feel terrible. Let me know if you need to talk. Man. That stinks when it happens.

Rachel said...

but it happens to all of us!!! I'm sorry about your day!

OHmommy said...

I just saw you and had no idea you had such a horrible day.

I am so sorry.

You need to talk to me more in real life. I have been receiving a magazine for like 2 years and only today did I find out it was you who has been paying my dues. I think I will meet you guys out tomorrow, regardless of how Lola is feeling after her surgery.

Badass Geek said...


I'm sorry this happened.

Anonymous said...

Awful! I lost a very dear, long-time friend over a silly misunderstanding - 13 years ago now, but I still dream about it and her.

I've got the wine open now and you're welcome to share.

Flea said...

Oh my. I'm so sorry. Is it a friendship you want to pursue, which is worth chasing after? I'm so sorry. It does happen, unfortunately.

Jessica said...

bummer...hopefully it was just an immediate emotional response by your friend and nothing long-term.

Anonymous said...

Don't feel too bad. If she doesn't see that you are truly sorry, (which is obvious) then she has more problems than this misunderstanding. Just send her a copy of your blog. See what happens.

Maggie, Dammit said...


Cynthia said...

Awww, so sorry about your day. I hope things get better:)

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry. You must have felt so awful. I can't even imagine saying to a friend what she said to you, even if I felt like saying it.